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Tuesday, 10 June 2014

Justifying the flaws of Qatar

I'm getting a little tired of the "you are rich so you have no worries" treatment. People don't seem to have shame mentioning or implying this topic to me so, I have no shame in clarifying it. 

Firstly, I don't feel a need to make up excuses for my life or to even feel guilt about what Allah swt has prevented from me and what He swt has allowed me to have. Everyone's RIZQ is by Allah swt and it is predestined before we even come out of our mother's womb. But since a lot of people have mentioned or in some way criticized me for living in a rich country, I'd like to give you a little insight on what it's like to live in Qatar.

A lot of people tend to have the same reaction when you tell them that you live in Qatar. Throughout the conversation they mention "how easy it is for you, because you got the money". Or what a "luxurious life you must have", when you mention the shopping malls, that people have maids and restaurants.

People often jump into explaining the struggle for money in their own countries and soon the conversation starts turning really awkward. They say: "It's not as easy for me as it is for you". They tend to explain to you what people go through to raise money and support their families as if you've never heard of poverty in your life. Don't get me wrong, I love to help out and I love to listen with an open heart. But when these words start turning into a comparison, it really get's awkward for me. You Don't know what I've been through in life, and you "Don't know what I've experienced and what not. 

A typical conversation:
-You are able to buy lots of abaya's, because it's a Muslim country anyway
- No, believe it or not they are too expensive, so I barely have any myself.
-How much are they?
-About 400-600kr a piece
- that shouldn't be a problem to you, you can afford that... 

Well Excuse me, but who made you my personal economy chancellor?  And second of all, my husband doesn't work day and night for several weeks outside home, just so that I can by myself expensive abayas. Why do people think that they know everything about you? And even IF I could afford them, have people no shame in nosing into someone else's economy business? This is the problem. People think that in Qatar we get our money in the mailbox with our newspapers every day. They think that our job is all about sitting back in an office chair, with a pina colada drink in one hand, while we wave a check at our face with the other hand, as we complain about how hot it is in Qatar.

Allah swt has several destinations for all of us. The chapters in our lives are very different and all of them are there to benefit us. "Everything that befalls a mu'min is good for him". Where ever you are right now, and whatever you are going through is good for you and it is where you are supposed to be. Do not envy someone else, because behind that shiny surface there might be a very dark and ugly ordeal.

I've had my fair share of experience when it comes to "not having it all" and "lacking" in life, and I still do - who doesn't? But alhamdulillah I am very satisfied with that. What I don't like is when people start implying how perfect my life is and that I should just shut up.

The Rich People in Qatar
To be fair, some people are indeed born rich in Qatar and in the Emirates. They never have to study, nor work. EVER. I guess that's where the "Brilliant" ideas come from where they start sending billions of dirhams to Serbia for women to enlarge their breast? - but that's another story.

Regardless, there are loads of facts that need to be explained from a non-Qatari's point of view. And obviously I will only be speaking for myself and from my own experience.

Everyone who lives in Qatar is NOT a billionair or a millionair. Neither are they ALL rich! Believe it or not there are even Qatari families who are struggling with their economy and they work humble jobs to provide their family. Jobs such as selling food to people on special events or so. It's rare to see or to hear about this (because it is a shame to a Qatari family) but it exists.Not to mention the non-Qataris.

It is true that most Qataris are very rich to the point that they sell and buy "special" phone numbers for thousand- if not millions of riyals. - A trend with which I am personally disgusted by. Some Qataris have great jobs but most of them are rich because the society provides them with the money.What can I say? It's their country, and it's one of the richest countries, so why should they not provide their own people with money if they have that possibility? - I bet any country would do that if they could.

But what about non-Qataris who live there? Do they get the same treatment? It is in some way fair to say No, we don't get the same treatment as the Qataris. It is not our country, but we still chose to come here, because we came to work for a better life, not expecting the better life to just come to us. This means that we would have to pay for the water and electricity bill and the Qataris wont. We will stand in queues at the airport and the Qataris won't. We will be sent back home when we retire and the Qataris will stay in Qatar. We will struggle to find a job and the Qataris won't. We will pay for education and Qataris wont etc etc.. Yes, we live just like we would live in Europe.

You will rarely find a Qatari doctor, or a Qatari street worker, or a Qatari builder, never a Qatari cleaner or a Qatari server, yet these people are the ones who build the country. They are the ones taking care of the sick ones, and helping deliver the Qatari babies. They are the ones building homes for all of us, and feeding us. Regardless of that, they don't get to stay in Qatar unless it is for work purposes, if they are sponsored by their husband or family, we won't get the same sallary as the Qataris and we never get a Qatari passport.
These people work hard for every penny that they earn. People here work just like they would work anywhere else. I won't ignore the fact that the salary is better payed because of no-taxes and richer society etc (it's mainly why non-Qataris, and even non-Muslims come to live here. But money sure does not grow on trees just because you live in Qatar. These people stay away from home for months. They miss out on their kids growing up and family events.. but they do it for the sake of giving their kids a good education, a better life, food on the table and hopefully to spend their money in the name of Allah swt on zakah and charity. Yes we swet for money, we bleed for money, we sacrifice sleep and health for the money that we earn... surprised?

Lifestyle in Qatar
The lifestyle in Qatar may also be what tricks people into thinking what a luxurious life one has over here. I rarely post pictures of myself on FB, because as soon as people see me standing by a palm tree, or sitting in a coffee shop, or standing by the beach, they immediately connect this to a life of perfection and a life of luxury- just because it's Qatar. You hear about the malls, the outside-dining. the cinema, the maids, the money, the wealth and you automatically connect this to me. As if  I suddenly own the entire country. I won't speak for everyone when I mention this, because we are all different and Allah swt has given us all different things in different amounts.

But  I will speak from my own experience. As a housewife I get to stay at home a lot. I'm lonely most of the time, and through out most of the year I barely get to go outside. Sure a 10 minutes walk in the frying sun is possible and I suck up  some D-vitamin but it's not enough. Without having a drivings license (yet insh) I am very depended on my husbands who's job requires a lot of time outside home. So, I would stay at home for days and weeks. When he comes back we are able to go to a mall. What does a mall offer? Shopping, Eating, Cinema etc. What else do you really do there than spend your money? We could find a spot on the floor and just sit there and watch bypassing people walk by as we talk about how we should not do anything else than spend our money on charity and zakah, but Allah swt did not forbid us to enjoy ourselves a little bit too.

 - To be quiet honest, I watch women walking around with their Prada bags, DnG heels and expensive makeup.. But, THAT does not define MY life, and it does not define MY goals in life. And I am tired of being put into this category. I don't fit in. I get tired of going through shops, and looking at materialism. My favorite time in Qatar is during the months when the weather is mild and welcoming. It reminds me so much of Sweden, the picnics and fishing and just going out and being social with family and friends.

I love that Qatar has to offer beautiful masjids and adhan and beautiful beaches and the construction of the buildings and other places. I love how beautiful it is here, and I love living here even though my heart yearns for Sweden. But I refuse to justify my life here to people who chose to stamp me as the rich ignorant princess who lives in Qatar and has no experience of a hard life.
 
In fact what am I supposed to do? In fact, what are people who live in Qatar supposed to do for entertainment other than spending time in malls and restoraunt and paying for boat rides during a time where one is breathing fire when stepping outside home? - So because people outside Qatar want to see us humbling ourselves, we are supposed to do the same thing that people do in the west or Europe? Does that mean that we should force ourselves to spend more time outside even if this means that we will fry and eventually die from a sun stroke, just so that we don't spend any money only happy days? - In fact, I do agree that Qatar as a rich country (and any other rich country) should spend more money on minimizing poverty and helping people in need, but then again, what do I have to do with this? Why do I always get to hear this as if it's MY fault that Qatar does not focus on important issues in this world? - How does that even tell you wheter or not I give in charity, and how much of my money goes on charity and how much on living? - If people could just stop generalizing! I did not give brith to and raise every Qatari that you see in Qatar, and in shaa Allah the kids that I do give birth too will be taught  the virtue of giving and charity In shaa Allah.

I once sat in a salon in Bosnia and the hairdresser asked me where I live and I replied that I live in Qatar. She praised the country and explaine dhow she admires it. I directed the topic towards muslims and the islamic part of Qatar, but then I started hearing a woman in the background speaking with disgust about "if it was so great then why don't they spend money on others than themselves?"... So, what am I supposed to say? "Oh I am sorry, I will make sure that I raise them better?" .. No really, what am I supposed to say? Why do I always get a stomach pain whenever someone asks me where I come from? Fo I always have to apologize? For what? A country that isn't even mine? A country that won't even accept me as a Qatari even? - I have the right to be happy in the country where I am without constantly veing beaten up about the fact that it's a rich country. 

 I've met a few wonderful Qatari women in the masjids who have approached me and let me into their private circle. I've met so many wonderful friends and that's really what brightens up my life in Qatar... No, it's not the money. It's my sisters, the great weather and being outside in the nature when possible.

MAIDS
 No I do not have a maid and may Allah swt forbid that I ever will be in need of one permanently because that -to me- will mean that something is wrong with me physically. I know that some women prefer having maids come and clean their homes because they want to focus on other things in life, but this is basically from my point of view on maids (I was raised this way and I'm fine with that).

I've had a made come and help me clean my apartment due to health issues, but other than that I've never had a maid living in my home. I say all of this and you are probably thinking that I have something against people who have maids or use maids- but I don't. Unless you have lived here, you will not understand why anyone would want to have a maid in their house. "it's like having a slave" I heard people comment. "Maids are treated poorly" is what I've heard other people say. But do NOT speak of what you don't know off.

First of all, these women and men who come to live in Qatar with other families are (to my knowledge and experience) provided with excellent care, food, room, bathroom, money etc. If they need anything they ask for it and it is given or bought to them. If the family can trust the maid they bring the maid out to picnics or other family gatherings. Sometimes this is to take care of the children, but I've seen maids coming along just for the sake of enjoying themselves too.

Back in their own countries they are starved and so are their families. They are sick and can not afford medical care. Some are even threatened to be killed if they do not pay certain dues or whatever the society want's them to pay. So, these poor people seek desperate help to come and work in Qatar. Now remember that it is not the Qataris who kidnap slaves to their homes, no, it is the maids themselves who ask to come and work for the families in Qatar. Maybe these maids even have a doctor's degree in their own country, but they will still get less payed than if they worked in Qatar as maids. They do get to contact their families, and they send money to their families every month. If they want to leave Qatar they can leave at any time- of course this is a long process because the family who asked for the maid had to pay for her trip and everything else.

When I just came to Qatar and I interacted with a few maids, I was immediately drawn to them emotionally. I listened to their stories from India, or Somalia, or Uganda, and it teared my heart appart. I never for a second though that I had to be careful with these people, because to me they were poor and innocent. due to my ignorance It angered me when I was asked to keep a bit of a distance from them. But what can I say? - As a European a maid was someone who I learned to pitty and wanted to help. I do not want to speak ill of the less fortunate but I soon learned why I was asked to keep a distance and to treat them professionally, instead of having an emotional connection to them. Sadly in environments where they come from, they are often forced to steal or lie, and can be manipulative. They might have gone through traumatic experiences and might react aggressively when approached in a way that would trigger that behaviour to come out. I've learned this the hard way. And when I saw that for myself, I was disappointing,. Here I was opening up to them and opening my heart up to them and I was used, but did I think bad of them? No- of course not. I just learned that when they are treated professionally (by command or restriction) it is for their own best and for the safety of the family in the house. Yet again, I promote kindness, and I have heard weird stories about maids who have been treated poorly, may Allah swt punish the people who do these things, but never have I seen it or heard about it in the news or anywhere else. Without generalizing, I want to mention that all people are different and there are surely maids who will give you no trouble in shaa Allah. 

So, why do some women have maids? Well, if you have been in Qatar you will have noticed that Qataris don't live in little humble houses or tiny apartments. Their houses are ma shaa Allah like castles or museums and they find pride in it. Well, at least that's how the houses seem to me. So, while the mother is preparing the food, the maid is cleaning the castle. Perhaps the mother has gotten old, or she has health issues, so it's a good thing to have a maid on the side.

Yet again, I won't generalize, some people just want to live like kings and queens, and that's why they have maids.
But am I going to make excuses for it? Noooo... :)

No country is perfect. Look at your own country and tell me that it's perfect. Alhamdulillah my goal to stay here is to be closer to Allah swt. Each and everyone one of us has a choice in life and we chose how to live. Just because you live in Sweden, does that mean you answer for the racism? Does it mean you celebrate Christmas?  - No. Can you change any of that ? - No. So why do people expect me to justify and excuse every single wrong thing happening in Qatar and why am I considered a Qatari with a mind set of a qatari person? - I've lived in Bosnia for 2 years in Denmark for 16 years, in Sweden for 5. I'm in Qatar for 3 years, does that suddenly make me a ignorant rich perfect qatari princess?

Ok.. I got the fustration out. :D Feel free to comment.

Thursday, 28 November 2013

DIY Pandora Style PAper Beads

Assalamu Alikom..


This, is soo exiting. I was hooked when I heard her saying that these beads were made of paper despite their glossy glass-looking surface..!!

This is a great project to do with your kids.. :)

Wednesday, 27 November 2013

Monday, 25 November 2013

VIDEO: DIY From T-shirt to Cardigan



Assalamu alikom Crafty sisters :)


Here comes another (slightly cheesy but useful) DIY video, on how to turn your T-shirt into a cardigan.
I had to film with one hand and demonstrate with the other so please excuse the sloppy explanation.
Hopefully this video will help you figure out what to do with your old clothes in shaa Allah :)

I try to show projects that are easy to do for just anybody :) If you don't have a sowing machine you can use a needle and a thread by hand - it will take longer time, but it depends on whether you think it's worth the time :D

btw, watch in HD


You can use lace, or you might prefer another fabric to replace it. You can also just cut up the shirt removing the hem from the neckline and just cutting it open in the middle. That will become a simple but very useful cardigan too. Of course remember that you should preferably be using a fabric that doesn't thread. (threads sepperating from the fabric ruining it.
          








Change of heart towards Qatar

Assalamu Alikom!


Subhan Allah, I just need to say that I really feel like I've started to settle down in Qatar. 2 years now, and I have a feeling that I might be able to call Qatar my home alhamdulillah.

I've realised that by Allah's help your future lays in your own hands. What you do with your days and your attitude towards life has a great effect on how you feel over here.

It is hard to find your fitting social group, but keep looking. Try researching, try looking up social home pages where people usually gather. Go to www.Qatarliving.com or www.iloveqatar.qa. Maybe you will find some friends there and you will feel less of a loner.

Being new and lonely in Qatar can really tear you up and lead you into depression. Ouch, I've been there and it's hard getting out of that stage once you have fallen in. Especially if you have no driving license or no car to take you out of home and get you to crowded places. Don't get me started on the Taxi transport system *sigh*.. But hey, it's not as bad as it looks.

There is also the weather which limits you from going out, and makes you feel locked up inside all day long. You know the drill, from home to car, from car to the mall and other way around again. But subhan Allah, October, November and December are beautiful and chilly months where you will get the chance to actually discover the beauty of Qatar. Visit the beach, go to parks, have a picnic somewhere outside.. And don't stop there..

When the weather becomes hotter find yourself other interesting things to do. Plan on getting a license. Get involved with people. Plan your days and fill them with ibadah, hobbies and joyful things that will keep you going.

I've written about Rawnaq by Fanar :  RAWNAQ POST. If you got crafty hands you don't want to miss that place. they got EVERYTHING from beads and jewelry supplies to sowing supplies. So get busy being creative.

Use this time to do lot's of ibadah. I often remember the stories of scholars who wished they could go to jail only for the sake of the free time they would get to do ibadah in. Alhamdulillah unlikeother contries in Europe or the west, Qatar really allows the woman to fulfill her obligations propperly as a housewife and a mu'mina.

Ever since I started this group on Facebook for expat sisters:  Sisters in Qatar, things have just been different for me. It has made such a difference subhan Allah. With the events that we are hosting on here it just seems to really work out for all of us in there.

Recently we had a picnic where we got to meet up and just hang out for the sake of Allah swt. It really fills the heart with joy and calmness. One realizes that you are not alone. There are other women in your exact same position. You realize that you have kind and warm hearted friends who will do fun things with you, who will understand you and who will be there for you... having just one such friend by your side is a happiness completed.... not to mention more than that :)

Friday, 22 November 2013

VIDEO: Beaded Wavy Bracelet

Assalamu Alikom little Pearls.

This is a tutorial on how to make this beautiful wavy bracelet in shaa Allah.
I used Swarowsky Crystal core pearls and glass seed beats.
If you have any questions, please go ahead and comment or contact me in private.

I hope you benefit from the video in shaa Allah. The goal is to spread creativity, and knowledge about what I know, for sharing is caring :*




Supplies I used in the video: 
 
23 peaces of 5mm Swarowsky Crystal Core Pearls.
A bunch of 1mm White glass seed beads (which I don't feel for counting)
0.5 m fishing line 
1 lock
3 jumprings
1 jewelry supply (nail)
3-4 cm long chain



Thursday, 21 November 2013

VIDEO Turn your cardigan into a tunique

This is a video I made on how to turn your cardigan into a tunique.
Not the best at editing videos and explaining but I did my best :) Hope you like it.

Wednesday, 20 November 2013

DIY Rose out of clay


Video How to get a pattern for clothes

Assalamu Alikom.

Here I am back again :)
This time I want to show you how to trace a basic pattern of a sleeve. When you know how to do this step, you will be able to figure out how to get patters from other parts of your clothes in shaa Allah:)
The video quality is not the best. I was afraid that blogspot wasn't going to accept a higher quality, but ill try to make it better next time in shaa Allah :) <3 have fun sowing!


Wednesday, 30 October 2013

Wash your dish if you want a free meal!

Assalamu alikom All!

This add Is so good! I had to share it with you. I believe that this happened somewhere in the Gulf (judging from the khaleeji guy in the video).

Basically, after the people in the restaurants had their meals, they were given a sponge to wash their dishes with if they wanted a free meal! Amazing! hahahah

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=trueview-instream&v=QkqKiEUnztk

DIY: How to make a shovel

 You will need:
-a Softener container
-a pair of scissors and
-a kitchen knife.

1.
draw the shape of a shovel on the container. Make sure that the drawings on each side are just about parallel with each other.




 

2. 
Cut out the shape with a hobby knife or a regular kitchen knife (preferable one with teeth). Don't hurt your fingers because this part can be a little difficult.

 3.
You can wash off the excess from the detergent now.

4.
Use a pair of kitchen scissors to trim a smooth finished look. 

5.
You are now done :)

I was not able to find a shovel for my cat litter, and then I remembered this DIY project. Thought I would share it with you <3

Hopefully this was beneficial in shaa Allah :)






Wednesday, 10 July 2013

Patten for flower earrings.

ASSALAMU ALIKOM AND RAMADAN KAREEM!

How are you all feeling today?

This post is ging to be related to my FB Page Pious Beads.

I've just finished editing a video on how to make the Flower earrings, and I wanted to post a few drawings explaining the beating pattern a little bit better: So here it all is.

This beating pattern only explains the first part of how to bead the flower, because once you've managed doing that part, the rest just needs to be repeated.







If you want to watch the video, go ahead and visit my FB page, like share it and enjoy yourself :)
Ramadan kareem!

Wednesday, 3 July 2013

Muslim Dating site

Assalamu Alikom you lonely birds out there!

This post is dedicated to those of you who are looking for a potential  partner with a Muslim background. 

What exactly am I talking about? I am talking about www.NikahNet.com

This is a homepage in Bosnian mainly, but if you are of other nationality and you understand some Bosnian, go ahead and explore NikahNet.com and join it!

The homepage is carefully supervised so that any "players" or people with filthy goals may be restricted from bothering others and spreading fitnah.

Right now, this homepage is being translated into Swedish in shaa Allah, and who knows what other languages in the future.

There has been people contacting the Admins of NikahNet.com telling them about how they met their spouse there. This is truly an amazing thing!

So please go ahead, visit and share this home page, and stay happy :)

Saturday, 29 June 2013

Beaded Cluster necklace

Assalamu alikom! Been a while - AGAIN!

Anyway, I want to share this really nice "Cluster Necklace" by

 
 
 
 I tried her design out and it looked so good. In difference to her necklace I used silver 3 mm beads and white seed beads instead of black :) It still turned out very well!



This got me thinking however. With Ramadan around the corner, why don't we try to turn these flowers into dangling accessories at home? I figured that if I got a big branch with lot's of little twigs, we can surely hang some of these beautiful flowers on to them with a thread :)
I am definitely going t try that out in shaa Allah :)

Are you preparing for Ramadan?

Monday, 3 June 2013

Ramadan is comming up!

Assalamu Alikom all happy people :)

It's been a while since I wrote a post and I feel a bit bad about it, but I have to be honest, I have been kind of absent and busy with other things in life.

Ramadan is coming up in shaa Allah and my excitement is on TOP! I will try to do something different during this Ramadan. My sister Ayah  introduced Sara and me to a "Ramadan Challenge" where we are to decorate our home for Ramadan, set higher goals than usual when it comes to Ibadah, and prayer. This is going to be fun in shaa Allah and I can't wait to start!

We are definitely off to Rawnaq for some deco shopping in shaa Allah and I will gladly share some ideas and inspiration on my blog!

Prepare for ramadan in shaa Allah. Here is a wonderful home page by Yusuf Estes where you can prepare yourself for Ramadan in shaa Allah!

Don't sleep it off! Get creative and use Ramadan well... Who knows if we will live to see yet another Ramadan.. The month of Mercy :)
http://ramadanreminders.com/

Thursday, 9 May 2013

GoodFood.ba

Assalamu Alikom All Happy Faces! 


If you live in Bosnia, "the Paradise of Europe", you sure are one lucky potato! - or as it is said in Bosnian "krompir". Bosnia has gotten a new Homepage where you can order food ONLINE!

Yes this means, no need to waste the gas or having to go out in the rain o hot weather.  

There has been put a lot of hard work into this homepage where you can order food inside of the whole of  Bosnia Online!!
 

      On facebook they have all ready reached->

This is the Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/GoodFood.Ba

Make sure to visit it and like it, in shaa Allah :)

And this is the actual homepage: www.goodfood.ba 


Here is the  private web page of the man who designed it. You can check it out and see what I mean by Amazing :) 
 http://www.pixelgraf.dk/



Their food is amazing! Go ahead and enjoy yourself :)


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Na Bosanskom:

Assalamu Alikom / Cao Sva Sretna lica!
 
Ako živite u Bosni, "Paradise of Europe", stvarno ste sretni! Bosna  je dobila novu stranicu gdje možete naručiti hranu Online!

Da to znači, da ne trebate  gubiti na gorivu. Ne trebate ici vani po kiši ili vrućini.
 
Uložilo je se puno truda u ovu internetsku stranicu gdje možete naručiti hranu gdje kod da ste u Bosni!


Na Facebooku su vec dosli do->



Ovo je Facebook grupa: https://www.facebook.com/GoodFood.Ba
Pobrinite se da je posjetite i "lajkujte", in shaa Allaha :)

A ovo je njihova  vlastita stranica: www.goodfood.ba

Ovdje je privatna web Stranica od webdesajnera koji je izradio stranicu, ako vas interesuje.
  http://www.pixelgraf.dk/
 

Njihova hrana je nevjerojatnaUživajte Bosanci kad mozete :) ​​:) 

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Lastly, excuse my Bosnian.. It is not the language that I use so often :) Enjoy!



Wednesday, 1 May 2013

Friends for Allah's sake

 Assalamu Alikom all happy faces!


It has been a wonderful week subhan Allah. To me a wonderful week is that one where Friday finally comes and I can say: "This week has been full of barakah and I have learned something new".

Yet again, I am struck my Allah's (swt) Glory. His (swt) Mercy and His (swt) wisdom. Yet again I am left speechless, and amazed by His (swt) greatness. All I can really do is to utter: "Subhan Allah, Subhan Allah, Subhan Allah" As I shake my head.

I don't even know how to put these feelings into words. I can not describe my thoughts, and it makes it very hard to write this post, but I will try my best.

I have truly yet again been reminded of what a friendship "for Allah's sake" really means. I've yet again been reminded of the ease it brings and the productivity that it increases.

It's almost been 2 years since I moved to Qatar, and no matter how hard I tried to struggle with my Deen on my own, I knew that I needed muslim sisters around me to help me through and motivate me through trials and hardships. Our religion stresses on the fact that our surrounding matters to our deen and eeman. That friendship has a great influence on the minds of people.  This influence can be in a positive way as it can be negative.  The adage says: “Tell me who your friends are and I will tell you who you are”. 


The Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) said: The Mu’min (believing person) is the mirror of his/her Mu’min brother. [Abu Dawood]


Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) said:The good companion is like the person who carries perfumes (for sale) while the bad companion is like the one who inflates bellows (to inflame a fire)”.
This last hadeeth basically means that a perfume seller smells like perfume and he will make you smell good when you come to buy from him (Such is a good friend who will affect you with good). And the man who blows into coal to inflame a fire will have a bad smell of ashes and smoke, which he will most likely leave with you when you come to buy coal from him (such is a bad friend who affects you in a bad way). 

Subhan Allah, I have finally met two sisters who have left such a great influence on me. Sudennly I have gotten the motivation to do so much ibadah. I feel like my days are filled with barakah, and my soul is happier than it has been for  a long time. Subhan Allah, my amazement is caused by the fact that it only took another God-fearing person to lighten up the productivity and motivation inside of me. 

With this said, I have immediately introduced yet another friend to our little group and slowly I am hoping that we will be able to grow like this.

Your surrounding really does affect you. If you want to become a better Muslim, try to look at the people who you are spending your time with and ask yourselves if there is any kheir (good) in it. Do they help you nurture your soul with ibadah? Do they remind you of Allah swt? If they see you committing a sin, will they advice you for the love of Allah swt?

I need to go now, so I have no more time to write. But I hope that you will benefit from this text :) insh  




Sunday, 28 April 2013

DIY: Changing the look of your wall clock

Assalamu Alikom!Hopefully everyone has been feeling amazingly well! :)

Some days ago, I felt like making some small changes around my house. I wanted to give it a little bit more of "me", and as I looked at the clock on my wall, I realized how boring it looked. It was basically a circular blue plastic frame nesting around the numbers.I really wished that it had a little bit more curves to it.

So I figured out a very easy way to fulfill my wish. You will need:

A pair of scissors
Some  black paper
A circular shaped lock or anything that you can use to draw circles with.
A pen
Some tape
A clock 
Count out how big your want your cicles to be and how many you need to cover the diameter of the clock.


Step 1: Get your Pen and paper


Step2: Apply your cap to the paper and draw a circle around it.


 Step3: Cut out the circles


Step4: get your tape and roll it inside out so that you have a sticky surface on both sides.


Step5: Apply the circles on the clock side by side.


Step6: check if it looks okay. And there you have it... A lot cuter and more interesting that it was before :D

you are welcome! :P

Comment and share your creativity !

Monday, 22 April 2013

Greeting oneanother

Assalamu alikom. 

A lot of times happen where we pass by a Muslim brother or sister and we greet them but they chose to look away without an answer. Perhaps they did not hear you? - But what if you are completely sure that your "Salam" echoed in the hallway and wasn't able to be overheard? Then what could cause a person to ignore your greeting? Is it Qibr? Do they look down at you and think that they are better Muslims than you, just because you do not wear your hijab? Or your Niqab? Or your Abaya? Or your Sunnah beard? 



In our contemporary society, friends are made at school, at work, in neighborhoods and even over the Internet. Friends are made and kept for a variety of reasons. People make friends with others who share common interests, hobbies, and even vices. The final goal of a friendship is often simply company, a desire to spend time with someone, doing something that they both enjoy. A Muslim ought to choose friends more carefully and critically.
Certainly, Muslims, like everyone else, want friends who share interests and who are fun to be with. We all enjoy having a picnic with a friend or going out to dinner with friends, and who wouldn't like to go to a gathering with some of their best friends? But, that is not only what a truly Islamic friendship is all about. In fact, an Islamic friendship is not that simple at all. In Islam, true friendships are bound by brotherhood and sisterhood, bonds that are stronger than typical friendships. They are bonds that exist for a much higher reason and with a greater goal.
Muslims make friends knowing that the relationship they will ensue is an important bond between two people who share mutual goals. Their friendship is one that exists primarily for the sake of Allaah the Almighty. The love and camaraderie that is born from such a friendship is a secondary benefit, for sure.
 
True love for the sake of Allaah
Love for others comes in different forms. Love between a husband and wife is one type of these forms, all friendship is another form. However, all forms of fondness that any one person can have for any other person, for the purpose of this article, will be referred to as love.
Realistically, pure love of another person only for the sake of Allaah is difficult. Few people can attain such a friendship, which is why Allaah rewards such an act of faith generously. The Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) explained, "Allaah said: those who love one another for My glory will be upon Minbars of light [high positions], and the Prophets and martyrs will wish that they had the same." [At-Tirmithi]

Nevertheless, many of us, in an attempt to reach this high level of faith, must try to make and build strong friendships that benefit us and our Ummah. In Islam true friendship is brotherhood or sisterhood- a bond that is strong and enduring. In this bond, men and women can find the sweetness of faith as the prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) said: "There are three things that whoever attains them will find the sweetness of faith: if Allaah and His Messenger  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) are dearer to him than anyone or anything else; if he loves a person solely for the sake of Allaah; and if he hates to return to disbelief after Allaah has rescued him from it, as much as he would hate to be thrown into the Fire." [Al-Bukhaari and Muslim]
The rewards of loving another for Allaah's sake are consistent with its importance. Its impact is not singular- it affects the entire society. For entire society to exist in harmony and peace, its constituents must be at peace. If we could each want for our friends what we want for ourselves, the world would be a better place. This is what Islam ensures. If there is brotherhood and unity among the people, the society at large will be united.
The Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) instilled a deep-rooted love in the hearts of the companions  may  Allaah  be  pleased  with  them to create a model Islamic society that all Muslims thereafter can emulate. Prophet Muhammad  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) tried to eliminate hatred, jealousy and rivalry by inducing brotherhood, a sincere love and friendship. The Islamic society is ideally built upon the foundation of brotherhood, as the Prophet advised: "Believers are like a structure, parts of which support one another. The believers, in their mutual friendship, mercy and affection, are like one body; if any part of it complains, the rest of the body will also stay awake in fever." [Al-Bukhaari and Muslim]

How to love someone
Since love among the believers is a condition of faith in Islam, the peace and harmony that is desired by all can be achieved, as each individual strives to do good and earn reward. So, what can we do? How can we be sure that our friendships are for the sake of Allaah? Our lives are full of opportunities to increase and improve our friendships. First, as with any undertaking, we need to make clear, pure and sincere intentions. Pertaining to the existing friendships that we already have, we should make a conscious effort to love our friends for the sake of Allaah. When we make friends in the future, we should also make conscious intentions that those new friendships will be for the sake of Allaah.
After a pure intention, we need sincere actions. The Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) recommended a very simple but significant way to help Muslims gain brotherhood saying: "I swear y the One in Whose hands my soul is, you will not enter Paradise until you believe, and you will not believe until you love one another. Shall I not tell you of something that if you do it, you will love one another? Spread salaam [greeting one another saying: As-Salaam Alaykum] amongst yourselves." [Muslim] Greeting each other frequently and lovingly is the first step to achieving the ideal brotherhood.
It would seem that greeting another with "As-Salaam Alaykum" is an easy action. However, given the nature of men and women and our vulnerability to changing emotions, sometimes these simple words are hard to utter. In other words, there are times when even this simple greeting is hard to say to someone with whom we might have argued. The beauty of Islam is that it is realistic. So, it is allowed for us to take time to "cool off," but we are not allowed to cut off friendships based on rash and unreasonable emotions. The Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) said, "It is not permissible for a Muslim to be abandon from his brother for more than three days, both of them turning away from one another when they meet. The better of them is the one who is first to greet the other." [Al-Bukhaari and Muslim]
These teachings encourage Muslims to improve themselves, thereby improving their society. "Do not break off ties with one another, do not turn away from one another, do not hate one another, and do not envy one another. Be O slaves of Allaah brothers." [Al-Bukhaari]
The Prophet's memory and words live in our hearts and minds. Heeding his advice, we should realize that we are supposed to be brothers or sisters in Islam because we share a common religion and belief. We are to be brothers and sisters in our hearts because we share a common goal-Allaah's pleasure.

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Saturday, 20 April 2013

I ate pigeon and bunnies!

Assalamu Alikom Dear All.

How are you doing tonight?

I've been good alhamdulillah. Better than I can possibly say.


I ate Pigeon meet!!
Today I went home to my in laws and we had pigeon for lunch. I've never tasted pigeon before, and I must say that it was pretty delicious. I expected the meet to taste like chicken, but it didn't really. It was more like duck and close to lamb. Interesting..

I've been eating things in Qatar that I've probably never have even tried while I lived in Sweden. (Don't judge) I tasted rabbit meat too. Yeah, I ate bunnies! It was pretty good too. I'm becoming an all-eating person hehe. We also have duck pretty often. I know it's a normal thing but I honestly never had duck until i came to Qatar.

The green dress:
So, I haven't been able to take a pic of my newly sewn dress yet. I haven't been at home the past weekend. Well barely. Been at my in laws most of the time. It was really nice :) It felt good to leave the four walls at home and just enjoy the social life.
 :) I must admit that it is one of the great ways of healing one self from sadness or any form of depression- just get social.

Books that I'm reading:
Right now it is still the book: "The happiest woman in the world" by |Aid El-Qarni. I don't really finish all of my books, i go back to them whenever I feel the need to find answers and recharge my batteries. These books are not just random books with one story which need to be started and finished and moved on with. These book are more like the kind of books which you constantly go back too, or you open random pages in, or perhaps you\ve all ready read the entire book not knowing that you have...

My book:
I've taken a large pause with the book that I'm currently writing. I've been very demotivated and distracted from it. At some point I went through something and it had drained me from energy. My mind was not able to focus. I was simply stuck and that made me so sad and helpless... useless... But alhamdulillah I am feeling like I am abut to regain my strength, and motivation, and this is only due to Allah's swt help. I just need a little bit more time, and I'll be completely fine and ready.. For some reason I feel like I need to hurry up with everything. Almost as if the time is passing so fast and it is being wasted..

My kitty:
I never mentioned that I don't have pixie anymore. Yeah, we had to get rid of it due to certain things from before but kheir in shaa Allah. Well, I can not say that I miss him that much. He was a sweet kitty, but honestly, He was a little bit too much for me. With his hyper mood and naughty smart actions, he became quiet a handful. Alhamdulillah I am happy that we found a great owner for him. However, my inlaws have this neat and adorable kitty cat, and I just feel like hugging her all the time. She is so decent and sympathetic. I don't know how to explain it but she basically makes you want to eat her alive... hehe

Became healthier:
Lately I've been reading alot about dangerous chemicals being sprayed all over fruits and vegetables. I've read about this GMO chemical which is found on Monsanto's (I think it's what it was called) products. About Agent Orange and a lot of other dangerous chemicals. I've also read that the govorments don't want to teach us about natural medicine which can be found in fruits and vegetables only because they want to poison us with their dangerous chemicals and medicines. It all sounds weird when I throw it all out like this but if you want to know more about these things, this is the page on Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/thenwowillfail?fref=ts     .

So yeah, I am being more careful and cautious of what I put into my mouth. Let's just say that the swine flue vaccination seemed suspicious all ready then...

That's all for tonight... Sleep tight :)